2020 has been the worst year we’ve ever seen. All we can do, is hope for better and that becomes are fuel to go through everyday. We have done so many things this year along side facing some. We got abundant of time to work on ourselves and our passions. We finished some things that were on hold for a while because of lack of time! Yet, we learnt the most important thing in 2020.
Acceptance is the biggest lesson & a milestone one can achieve. 2020 has come with innumerable lessons, and one of the most important one is Acceptance.
Acceptance of Circumstances –
Accepting that what we have is enough and we must not waste resources. Accepting that things are temporary and good times don’t last forever. So doesn’t bad times. Accepting the situations around us, how we wasted valuable moments with family before, and now we’re getting some. How some people are losing their families and we’re some lucky few to have them safe. SO we embrace it.
Acceptance of People’s Choices –
People are sharing things, opinions, feelings, stories and their vulnerability, insecurities and self-love stories too. And we’re getting inspired to adapt something from them. In the world of trollers and shamers, most of the people are accepting the truth and sharing positive thoughts. Accepting the love and kindness we can spread is one of the biggest highlights of the year.
Acceptance of Time –
Good times don’t last and so doesn’t bad ones. So we’ve learnt this year. Although, bad ones seem to last longer for now, but we know there’s hope and this is going to end soon and we’ll accept the things in newer world. We will embrace the good times better from now on.
Acceptance of Judgements-
Let’s face it. Most of the people are spending their time on the internet and there are billion types of people. Like the ones who troll and the ones who troll the trollers, and the one who troll the trolling the trollers, because freedom of speech! But, at least, the fights stay online. We learn newer perspectives and realities from all around the world. With that, we accept everyone without judging them.
Acceptance of Love-
With so many inspiring stories of people doing so much in this tough scenario, just melts our hearts. Standing up for each other, sending love to people who are away, calling and texting to just say ‘hello’, keeping track of each other’s mental healths and most of all spending time with family and ourselves and meeting our trueselves.
Acceptance of Power of Togetherness-
We’re standing up for people, from all around the world. Be it the #blacklivesmatter movement, the #lebanondisaster , #mentalhealthawareness or #covidcases around the globe. We’re speaking up, and witnessing the power of togetherness. This going to make us all stronger as human beings, more kind, compassionate and empathetic.
Acceptance of Passions & Dreams-
We’re all going back to the things we loved to do. Painting, dancing, singing, writing, cooking, baking and what not! We get astounded everyday with one thing or the other and I thank THE INTERNET for that. We’re learning more than ever. We’ve accepted that learning is growing and now that we have the time, we’re getting on it with online courses and workshops. We’re accepting that if we don’t learn NOW, we’ll never do.
Acceptance of Life, As It Goes On-
People are losing their loved ones and some people are safe with theirs. Call it fate , luck or destiny, life is uncertain and we’re accepting it. With Covid or any other reason, people are losing lives but other people are giving birth too. We’ve lost so many great artists this year. The most loved, most followed people. We’re so damn sad about it, but it’s the truth and we’re accepting to move on and pray for a better tomorrow and in that, we’re together.
Acceptance of Mistakes-
We’ve done a lot of damage to ourselves and to others in the past and this year has made us accept everything. This year we accepted to move on and let the mistakes stay where they’re- in the past. Accepting the defeat is also a victory and it’s the one thing required to live a meaningful life. Embrace the failures and learn the lessons.
Acceptance of Ourselves-
In the end, what matters is – OUR WILL. How strong we’ve become or how weak we are. We matter the most in our lives and accepting this has been a major change in so many lives this year. Taking time off from the internet, friends or doing certain things, for our own peace of mind. Accepting mistakes and learning from them. Falling in love and getting rejected, losing the job and starting to work on a dream project – so many things happening in so many lives. But in the end- we accept that what matters the most is still there and that makes all the difference.
I am sure, just like me, you must’ve read and watched all the articles and videos about early morning routines and it’s benefits. I am sure, some of you are the early morning birds, that sing with ease with eyes closed, smile on a face and a fresh breeze kissing every ounce of your body. Robin Sharma wrote a Best-Selling Book on it, The 5 a.m. Club. I read it and got inspired but not motivated. I always procrastinated about ‘my early mornings’!
Two weeks ago, I hit a major writer’s block. I forced myself to write two poems and they were okay! Yet, I knew I could write better. But, I just didn’t want to. I regretted my non-writing hours of the day. I apparently didn’t even read any online things of my fellow writers. Just kept my distance from the writing exercise and the community itself. For a week, I wasted time. I watched the Netflix series, DARK & read my unfinished books, ordered some more & re-read the old ones.
A week later, I was enjoying it. I realised, I needed to waste sometime. I needed to take a break. Yet, I needed a routine. moreover, a morning one! Yet, I STILL DIDN’T WAKE UP EARLY. In fact, I used to sleep around 3 a.m. ! So, one fine day, I wrote this – The Power Of Wasting Time.
I literally thought that my writer’s block is over. Yet, I was still not motivated to be productive. So, wasted some more time, wrote in my journal, read more books, created some Content. But, I didn’t feel motivated enough.
Two days ago, I decided to go for a walk in the evening. May be discover new roads to walk on. When I did, I felt something that I hadn’t felt in a very long time. The peace was easier to feel. The road was empty. There were bushy trees on both sides and there were just me, the sound of my footsteps and the song of the breeze (somewhat similar to the image). I don’t think I have heard such quite surrounding, ever! I had just fallen in love with walks in the nature.
I walked and just gazed into the beautiful blue sky, the monsoon green trees, the washed up road with a garnish of fallen leaves.
It was a wake up call. One morning I woke up around 5:30 in the morning and just went off!!! My eyes weren’t even wide open yet and my hair were messed up. But I didn’t care (Also, with the mask on, nobody would recognise me). Anyway, I walked and just gazed into the beautiful blue sky, the monsoon green trees, the washed up road with a garnish of fallen leaves. It was surreal! I came back and I felt like I was a new person. The nature really heals, I thought. I opened my laptop, I went to this site aeon.co because I wanted to feed my brain with some breakfast. Coincidently, the first article I saw was ‘The Healing Power Of Nature’. It was relatable and informative but the satisfaction I felt was out of this world.
Finally, I came down to medium and read some amazing stories. I wrote down some ideas I had and then, started to write this. Apologies for dragging you along the memoir! But without going backwards, there’s no moving forward right?
A walk is the stillness we need in a speedy world.
The Significance Of A Walk
I am assuming you’re intrigued. I used to go for walks before, but why did it affect me on such a high note this time? Simply, because I Needed It. Sounds cliche but it’s true. The fact behind the phrase ‘timing is everything’, is that it is. A walk can change the way you look at life. It can heal your mind, body and soul. A walk can take away all the pain and give you all the cure you need.
A walk is an escape from the chaos of the world. A walk is the stillness we need in a speedy world. If we’re able to go for a walk, in between all this clutter in the world, there’s no one luckier than us. Because we can find a moment of peace and motionlessness in the natural state of motion of a human being, without having to think of the consequences but to experience it all.
The Power Of A Walk
I shared my story, yet there’s more to it. A walk is a personal choice & its power on us is personal as well. However, some effects are common.
A walk is liberating: Remember, when in childhood, we used to go out and play. How amazing it used to feel. We used to wait for our play time! Same goes in adulthood, but with walks… Our playtime is replaced with a walk, but gives us the same feeling, leaves the same after effect and makes us powerful in feeling free.
A walk is the awaited ‘Me-Time’: Adulthood is hard and what’s harder is to find that time in a day, where you get to be yourself, with yourself. You get to be alone with your thoughts and get inspired with them. A walk is that moment.
A walk is the easiest exercise: Also cycling. It’s the most effortless exercise for all aspects of us. Physical, mental, emotional, spiritual. a walk is great for everything. The only effort you need to put in, is to just go for it.
A walk helps you with ‘live in the moment’: When on a walk, with music or not, try not to use your phone. Just walk and look around. You’ll realise that time can be slowed down and you can worry less, because you’re learning to living in the moment because of the walk.
I want to share more about how amazing a walk can be, but I think you get the point. Now, all you need to do is to go for a walk in nature and experience the magic on your own. Be safe and happy walking.
It’s not your fault, that the first time I met you, I doubted your intentions. The world has made me like that. Though, when I got to know you, you were a delight and a charmer. You made me laugh, you laughed at my jokes too! You shared your thoughts and really listened to mine.
I support the notion “Not All Men” , because of YOU. You never made me feel unsafe or insecure. Instead, You made sure, I was comfortable. Because you really meant it, when you said that I am your friend, your sister or your lover. Until,
I met the toxic ones along the way. Yet, I trusted them, because I always thought they’d all be like you. But here again, “Not All Men”. So ,they were manipulative, scary and desperate. Not for my love, but for my body.
They don’t exist to me anymore. Because I have more of you in my life and I am grateful for that. When I know I am a feminist, I also know, that YOU respect not just Women, But Everyone. And I respect you for that.
We never talk about gender equality, even when you call me bro, buddy, & babe, because I call you the same too. It’s not the WORDS that make us equal, but it’s our actions. I never had to tell you, that you’re being biased, because you chose ME as your Equal.
I understand, it’s hard for you too, to find a place for yourself, and to make people NOT misunderstand you. I understand, that you feel trapped in this battle of patriarchy and equality. In spite of the fact, that you just care about humanity. But You need to understand that for US, it’s a never ending battle too.
The only thing Me & You can do, is to keep doing what we do and do it better everyday. Let’s remain friends, equals and competitors.
I know, we don’t feel so beautiful everyday, all the time. We feel lost most of the times. We feel like, we need someone, but we’re way too crazy, weird, anxious, moody & intolerable to actually be with someone. So we drop the thought. The ones who do have someone, I understand when you find yourself looking for YOUR space, but you know you’ve found the right man. So it’s not really a problem.
I know we have skin problems, hair problems, PMS, body image issues, insecurities that only WE know. But We fight everyday , because we’re stronger than those negativities. I know we’re sad and broken and deep down we feel, we’ll never be happy or feel content, but we don’t let it get to our head. Because we know we deserve to be happy and we work to attain it. Everyday.
I know, when we see so many beautiful photographs & videos of beautiful women embracing their weaknesses and strengths, we feel bad, because we aren’t doing the same.
We feel betrayed by ourselves.
I know, when we want to do so many things we feel overwhelmed and eventually do nothing at all. Then, blame ourselves later.
I know, when we look in the mirror, we only see the wrongs on our faces. The scars, the spots ,the acne, the distorted nose, the uneven skin.
What are we actually seeing?
We’re seeing the society standards of a Beautiful Woman. We’re looking for social acceptance. We’re seeing social levels of a perfect skin and every other feature.
What are we NOT seeing??
We don’t see ourselves as OUR SOCIAL STANDARD OF BEAUTIFUL. Next Time, see yourself as YOURSELF. You’re insecure but You’re Your Own Beauty.
Disclaimer: I am not motivating you to waste your time and be sad about it later. I am telling you to take a break. Basically, I am telling you to waste your time in a more decent way, where you also learn things. I don’t know, keep reading .
Let’s get straight to the point. Who doesn’t like to just lie down, watch movies, read books and eat, sleep, repeat? Yet, our brain is trained to be productive. Our brain is active even when we’re asleep! Talk about being a workaholic! But we must not compete with the brain but with the zeal of it. Being a creative person is exhausting as it is. On top of that is being humongously productive! How can we cope with both, all the time! We need a break. A break to break the cycle of stress and brain-drainage.
You can break the glass ceiling, only when you’ve broken stress!
I have been trying to punish myself by worrying about not being able to create anything. Not with words, music or my podcast. Nothing. You can say, I am lacking inspiration or I am not motivated enough, procrastinating more ecetera ecetera. Yet, I am not going to let you tell me that. Nor should you tell this to yourself. You’re having none of those. You just need a break.
With break, I don’t mean a vacation and ditching social media. Firstly, vacation is impossible, for who knows how long and secondly, I don’t believe in a social media detox. Because in my opinion, it’s quite stupid. Not being aware of what’s going on in the world, especially in 2020, is your lacking as a human being. So, social media is a great way to learn things. But if you still need a detox, may be you aren’t using it the right way.
With break, I mean – Mental Break. A break where you worry less, think less and don’t force yourself either. Basically, waste time but with dignity.
How do we waste time with dignity?
Wasting time often includes- Daydreaming, sleeping more than required, watching movies, scrolling down to social media most of the day, eating more because you’re bored and doing nothing. But wait, are you really wasting your time?
Daydreaming? It’s a part of creative process, so you’re actually working.
Sleeping more? You haven’t slept like that in a long time, you deserve longer naps.
Watching movies & everything else? You’re forming new perspectives, learning about new topics and so, you’re collecting content.
Social Media Scrolls? You’re staying updated. Period.
Eating More? That’s a human need.
Doing Nothing? Your brain is recharging for more work , whenever you’re ready.
Now, with adding some more things, your wasting time becomes a power.
Reading- See, I know what you’re going to say! Reading is boring, it’s hard, I can’t concentrate blah blah blah!! Those are just excuses my friend. If you REALLY want to read, you’ll stop making excuses and start reading.
I read somewhere,
“If you don’t like reading, you just haven’t found the right book.”
Start finding the right book and read, sleep, eat, repeat.
Spending time with your heart- Meaning, do what makes you happy. Like for me, I read, sing, learn to play an instrument and spend time with friends and family (virtually). This makes me happy and the pressure of writing and creating becomes little. So, do what makes your heart sing.
Talk to more people- I have been talking to many new people on different social media platforms. Like the people, who I knew, but never got the chance to really know them. You know what it did? It made me more compassionate, empathetic and literally happy.
Because we’re all struggling with one thing or the other, it’s better to do it together. Right?
What happens when we waste time like that?
“That’s the POWER of wasting time. It just helps us realise what’s important and that even with all the toxicity in the world, there is so much more to life & we just need to live it right to feel it.”